Better error message when --single is not the first arg to postgres executable

Please find attached a quick patch to prevent this particularly bad error
message for running "postgres", when making the common mistake of
forgetting to put the "--single" option first because you added an earlier
arg (esp. datadir)

Current behavior:

$ ~/pg/bin/postgres -D ~/pg/data --single
2024-06-05 18:30:40.296 GMT [22934] FATAL: --single requires a value

Improved behavior:

$ ~/pg/bin/postgres -D ~/pg/data --single
--single must be first argument.

I applied it for all the "first arg only" flags (boot, check,
describe-config, and fork), as they suffer the same fate.

Cheers,
Greg