Re: Q&A at Postgres Women talk at pgconf.eu

Thank you! This was me interrupting the question asked and I had some good conversations with community members and reflect. I have requested the conference Terence to connect me to the asker so that I may apologize to him. In my head, I had a story that was based on my feelings and I was not a good listener.

I really appreciate everyone’s attention to this and the opportunity to be accountable and continue to stand in my values. My behavior in this instance was not a good reflection of our community and I have a mentor back at home who will help me actively review and role play such situations so that I can remain calm during them.

Thank you again,
Renee

> On Oct 18, 2019, at 5:48 PM, Valeria Kaplan <vk(at)dataegret(dot)com> wrote:
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> Hi All,
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> In light of openness and acceptance within our community I just wanted to raise an issue that I've seen happen during a Q&A session at the conference and hear your thoughts.
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> During a Postgres Women Q&A session at pgconf.eu there was a question from one of the attendees that I don't think was handled very well. The question was from a guy who raised, in my opinion, a very valid point about increasing the number of female speakers at events. He wasn't able to finish his question as the microphone has been taken from him and as he wanted to comment further he wasn't given a microphone back.
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> This actually made me feel a bit uneasy since I feel if we want equality in the community we must treat any questions people have with respect and snatching a microphone from them is a lack of basic courtesy that one expects regardless to the gender, believe etc.
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> Postgres Women is a fantastic initiative and I think the key is not to act towards the majority in a way that we wouldn't tolerate as their behaviour towards minority. This might send a wrong message and actually have an opposite effect than what we are trying to achieve in the community.
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> Sincerely,
> Valeria
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>> On Tue, Oct 15, 2019 at 6:37 PM Lætitia Avrot <laetitia(dot)avrot(at)gmail(dot)com> wrote:
>> Hi all,
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>> As I'm still learning and not so good at organizing things, I didn't think to take people's e-mail to contact them, so I have no other way than sending this invitation here to everyone. We'll get better next time.
>>
>> Some quick information here :
>> - the dinner is sponsor, you just need to take care of your drinks
>> - the dinner time is 7:30 PM
>> - the restaurant is Ristorante Tagiura (please, find map enclosed)
>> - before the dinner, we'll find a place to have a drink only with women (we're actively looking for a place)
>>
>> Have a nice day,
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>> Lætitia
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